7. Voila!
At this point, your partner may or may not want you to make gentle fucking movements with your hand inside her, or stimulate her clit. Fisting produces extremely intense sensations for women, so ask her what feels good. When you抮e done, make your hand into the 搘edge?shape again, and gently slide out.
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6. All the way in.
6. All the way in.
The knuckles are the widest part of the hand and the most difficult part to get past the opening of the vagina. You抣l probably run into resistance at that point. Wait until your partner is ready before making the big push. She may be able to help by 揵earing down?as if giving birth. Once your knuckles slip past the ring of muscles around the vaginal entrance, you抣l find your whole hand enveloped in warm, wet pussy. Now roll your hand into a fist.
The knuckles are the widest part of the hand and the most difficult part to get past the opening of the vagina. You抣l probably run into resistance at that point. Wait until your partner is ready before making the big push. She may be able to help by 揵earing down?as if giving birth. Once your knuckles slip past the ring of muscles around the vaginal entrance, you抣l find your whole hand enveloped in warm, wet pussy. Now roll your hand into a fist.
5. Let her lead.
5. Let her lead.
Listen to your partner and let her tell you when to push, when to back off, when to add more fingers, and when it抯 too much. Fisting can cause vaginal muscle and tissue injuries if you go too fast or too hard. Some pain during fisting is normal, but you have to take her word on the difference between a 揼ood?hurt and a 揵ad?hurt.
Listen to your partner and let her tell you when to push, when to back off, when to add more fingers, and when it抯 too much. Fisting can cause vaginal muscle and tissue injuries if you go too fast or too hard. Some pain during fisting is normal, but you have to take her word on the difference between a 揼ood?hurt and a 揵ad?hurt.
4. Duck inside.
4. Duck inside.
As you add more fingers to your partner抯 cunt, squeeze them together so your index and pinkie fingers are under your middle and ring fingers. As you push further inside, tuck your thumb under your fingers. (Imagine you抮e making shadow puppets and trying to do a duck.) This makes your hand into a wedge shape that allows you to gradually stretch her open as you press on. Apply steady but slow pressure.
As you add more fingers to your partner抯 cunt, squeeze them together so your index and pinkie fingers are under your middle and ring fingers. As you push further inside, tuck your thumb under your fingers. (Imagine you抮e making shadow puppets and trying to do a duck.) This makes your hand into a wedge shape that allows you to gradually stretch her open as you press on. Apply steady but slow pressure.
3. Start slow.
3. Start slow.
Start with one or two fingers and work your way up to three and then four. Most women need some time to further relax the muscles of their vagina, and some may require several 搒tretching?sessions, over weeks or even months, before you can actually get your whole hand in.
Start with one or two fingers and work your way up to three and then four. Most women need some time to further relax the muscles of their vagina, and some may require several 搒tretching?sessions, over weeks or even months, before you can actually get your whole hand in.
Fisting Made Easy
1. Get her ready.
Make sure your partner is relaxed, turned on, and comfortable. When a woman becomes aroused, her vagina relaxes, expands, and lengthens梐ll very important for accommodating a fist. Also, make sure your hand is very clean and your nails closely trimmed.
Make sure your partner is relaxed, turned on, and comfortable. When a woman becomes aroused, her vagina relaxes, expands, and lengthens梐ll very important for accommodating a fist. Also, make sure your hand is very clean and your nails closely trimmed.
A Fist Full of Pussy:
Yes, you can get your whole hand inside your partner抯 pussy. For women who are into massive penetration, nothing is a bigger turn-on. No experience is necessary梖or either of you梑ut if your gal pal is a little 搑oomy?or has given birth in the past, you抣l have an easier time. Otherwise, you may need to start off slow and work your way up.
A few words of caution before you roll up your sleeves and plunge in: fisting can result in injury to the fistee if not done properly. Trust and communication between partners is essential--and tons of lube help a lot, too. Respect your partner抯 limits and pain threshold. The following guide is intended for consenting adult partners who wish to engage in this act, and we assume no responsibility for possible injuries caused by or to those attempting it. That said, let these tips be your guide to safe and sane fisting.
A few words of caution before you roll up your sleeves and plunge in: fisting can result in injury to the fistee if not done properly. Trust and communication between partners is essential--and tons of lube help a lot, too. Respect your partner抯 limits and pain threshold. The following guide is intended for consenting adult partners who wish to engage in this act, and we assume no responsibility for possible injuries caused by or to those attempting it. That said, let these tips be your guide to safe and sane fisting.
Tip #5: Clear the Way
Tip #5: Clear the Way Before having anal sex, you should evacuate the premises. If you don't, it can be messy and unpleasant for all. A normal bowel movement should be good enough, but some people also opt for an enema. Check out this site for the pros and cons of enemas.
Tip #4: Turnabout is Fair Play
Tip #4: Turnabout is Fair Play Whether you're trying to convince someone to have anal sex or trying to figure out how to do it in a gentle, pain free manner, there's no better preparation that exploring anal play with yourself. A partner is much more likely to consent to anal sex if she's seen that you're open to being on the receiving end as well. Encourage her to use her fingers inside of you, or even purchase a butt plug or small dildo and let her use that. Once she's seen you're willing to do it, it'll be hard for her to resist exploring it as well. Of course, anal play on yourself is a great way to learn how anal sex feels and to learn how to make it more comfortable for your partner. You might also be surprised just how much you like it...
Tip #3: Work your way up
Tip #3: Work your way upStart with your fingers. Try one, see how your partner reacts, then add another. Initiate your partner slowly into the joys of anal pleasure. Try it while performing oral sex for an extra thrill. Be sure not to forget the lube, and you might also want to wear latex gloves.As your partner gets used to your fingers, you might graduate to a butt plug or a small dildo. Dildos are available in all shapes and sizes. Go shopping together to get one she thinks she can handle. Remember, though, don't put the dildo into the vagina after putting it into the anus. The safest way is to put a condom on the dildo before using it, and to wash it thoroughly immediately after.
Tip #2: Vibrators
Tip #2: Lube, lube, lubeThe vagina produces it's own lubricant.
The anus does not. Therefore, you need to supply the lube, one way or another. On top of that, using a lot of lube is good and using even more lube is better. It makes the whole experience much more pleasant, for both partners. This is the number one mistake people make in having anal sex: not enough lube.
All kinds of lube are used for anal sex, from spit to Vaseline to high-tech silicone-based lubes.
We'd strongly recommend spending a little money to get a high quality water-based lubricant; remember, an oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will degrade the latex in a condom, destroying its usefulness. We'd recommend products like AstroGlide , available in any drug store.
Note, though a condom may be "lubricated", they typically don't offer as much lube as we'd recommend for anal sex.We don't recommend specialty lubes designed for anal sex that include an anesthetic to numb the woman's sensation.
Anal sex isn't supposed to be painful. If it's painful, you need to figure out what's wrong, not mask the pain with a topical anesthetic.
The anus does not. Therefore, you need to supply the lube, one way or another. On top of that, using a lot of lube is good and using even more lube is better. It makes the whole experience much more pleasant, for both partners. This is the number one mistake people make in having anal sex: not enough lube.
All kinds of lube are used for anal sex, from spit to Vaseline to high-tech silicone-based lubes.
We'd strongly recommend spending a little money to get a high quality water-based lubricant; remember, an oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will degrade the latex in a condom, destroying its usefulness. We'd recommend products like AstroGlide , available in any drug store.
Note, though a condom may be "lubricated", they typically don't offer as much lube as we'd recommend for anal sex.We don't recommend specialty lubes designed for anal sex that include an anesthetic to numb the woman's sensation.
Anal sex isn't supposed to be painful. If it's painful, you need to figure out what's wrong, not mask the pain with a topical anesthetic.
Top Five Anal Sex Tips
Tip #1: Play Safe
Anal sex can be safe, but you need to take precautions.
Rule number one:
Anything that touches the anus shouldn't be touching anything else. Never ever take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly. You also need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases. AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis, and gonorrhea can all be transmitted through anal sex.
You simply shouldn't be having anal sex without a condom; it's not worth the risk to either partner.
Anal sex can be safe, but you need to take precautions.
Rule number one:
Anything that touches the anus shouldn't be touching anything else. Never ever take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly. You also need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases. AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis, and gonorrhea can all be transmitted through anal sex.
You simply shouldn't be having anal sex without a condom; it's not worth the risk to either partner.
Give the Best Hand Job
Self-pleasuring is always fun, but having a different set of hands on your cock is always more stimulating than touching yourself, and your man is sure to savor the extra attention. Giving a good hand job is an art, and you'll learn your own tricks and techniques with practice, but here are some tips to get you started stroking.
Get Him GreasyThe first thing to consider before giving a hand job is the type of lubrication you'll be using. Will it be petroleum-based or water-based, or do you just want to use saliva? All three have their good points and provide slightly different sensations. One thing to remember is that men in general are not turned on by fruity or floral scented lubes or lotions. These things are designed to please women and are tolerated by men who want their women to be happy. Men are more aroused by natural, earthy scents.
Petroleum based lube, like Vaseline, provides a smooth, silky texture good for long slow stroking. Its thick, creamy consistency works as an insulator that locks in heat. The more you stroke, the warmer it gets. This can be especially good on cold winter nights.
Water-based lubes like KY Jelly and Astroglide are slick and designed to simulate the body's natural lubrication (also known as pre-cum). These feel great and are the most commonly used as they adapt well to fast or slow stroking. Most hand jobs start slow and speed up as they go along. The only problem with water-based lubes is that they can dry out quickly. It's always best to start out with a generous amount and add more when needed. This of course will all depend on how long it takes for the guy to blow his load.
Perhaps it's just the nature of the beast, but a lot of us are turned on by the warm slick feeling of spit. Maybe we enjoy the intimacy of our partner using their own fluids as lube. Or maybe we're just crude. But if you're the type of person who is good at working up a mouth full of saliva, this can be the sexiest way to go.
Lay Him BackWhen you're ready to begin, have the guy lay back and relax. Since you will be doing all of the work, he can put his hands up behind his head, close his eyes, and just enjoy the sensations. Position yourself between his legs so that you can comfortably reach his cock and balls, but not so close that you are pressed up against him. You want to give yourself enough room to work.
Place a generous amount of lube in one hand. Using the other hand, hold his dick out so that it is pointing straight up at the ceiling. Bring the hand full of lube down on the head of his cock and slowly draw it down the length of his shaft. As you do this, use the other hand to massage excess lube onto his balls. Remember that giving a good hand job really requires the use of both hands and plenty of lube.
As your hand reaches the base of his shaft, reverse the motion and draw it slowly back up. When you reach the top, tighten your grip around the head and give it a little squeeze before starting your hand back down. Continue to repeat this motion for several strokes while also gently pulling and rubbing his balls with the other hand. Once you begin, try to never let your hand come completely off his dick. Every time you break your rhythm, you also break the mood and set back his climax.
Hand Over Hand StrokingContinue this slow, even stroking until he begins softly moaning or making comments like, "Mmmm. That feels good." Then you'll know it's time to move on to phase two and heat things up.
On the downward stroke, as your hand reaches the base of his shaft, start your other hand at the top. As the second hand goes down, remove the first and start it back at the top. Continue this hand over hand downstroke five or ten times then reverse it pulling your hands from bottom to top five or ten times. Repeat this procedure back and forth until his balls pull up tightly to his body and his breathing becomes heavy.
Finish Him OffNow it's time to return to the single-hand, up-and-down stroking you started with. This time use a firmer grip and speed your stroke up to a rapid jacking motion. Gently but firmly, work the fingers of your other hand around his scrotum and pull his balls back down away from his body. By this point his body will begin to buck uncontrollably and streams of semen will shoot in the air.
Once he stops shaking and catches his breath, he will definitely thank you for a job well done.
Tips
Use plenty of lube, and keep pouring it on as the hand job progresses. Don't forget to use his pre-cum as extra lubrication.
Massage his balls with one hand as you stroke his dick with the other.
Keep a steady, even rhythm and accelerate as he becomes more excited.
Keep at least one hand on his cock, stroking, at all times.
Squeeze gently around the head of his cock and the base of his penis for extra stimulation.
Use a firm grip and long, full strokes, unless he specifically prefers a lighter touch.
When he gets close to climax, tug gently on his balls.
If you're adventurous, slip a lubed finger up his ass and nudge his prostate.
Get Him GreasyThe first thing to consider before giving a hand job is the type of lubrication you'll be using. Will it be petroleum-based or water-based, or do you just want to use saliva? All three have their good points and provide slightly different sensations. One thing to remember is that men in general are not turned on by fruity or floral scented lubes or lotions. These things are designed to please women and are tolerated by men who want their women to be happy. Men are more aroused by natural, earthy scents.
Petroleum based lube, like Vaseline, provides a smooth, silky texture good for long slow stroking. Its thick, creamy consistency works as an insulator that locks in heat. The more you stroke, the warmer it gets. This can be especially good on cold winter nights.
Water-based lubes like KY Jelly and Astroglide are slick and designed to simulate the body's natural lubrication (also known as pre-cum). These feel great and are the most commonly used as they adapt well to fast or slow stroking. Most hand jobs start slow and speed up as they go along. The only problem with water-based lubes is that they can dry out quickly. It's always best to start out with a generous amount and add more when needed. This of course will all depend on how long it takes for the guy to blow his load.
Perhaps it's just the nature of the beast, but a lot of us are turned on by the warm slick feeling of spit. Maybe we enjoy the intimacy of our partner using their own fluids as lube. Or maybe we're just crude. But if you're the type of person who is good at working up a mouth full of saliva, this can be the sexiest way to go.
Lay Him BackWhen you're ready to begin, have the guy lay back and relax. Since you will be doing all of the work, he can put his hands up behind his head, close his eyes, and just enjoy the sensations. Position yourself between his legs so that you can comfortably reach his cock and balls, but not so close that you are pressed up against him. You want to give yourself enough room to work.
Place a generous amount of lube in one hand. Using the other hand, hold his dick out so that it is pointing straight up at the ceiling. Bring the hand full of lube down on the head of his cock and slowly draw it down the length of his shaft. As you do this, use the other hand to massage excess lube onto his balls. Remember that giving a good hand job really requires the use of both hands and plenty of lube.
As your hand reaches the base of his shaft, reverse the motion and draw it slowly back up. When you reach the top, tighten your grip around the head and give it a little squeeze before starting your hand back down. Continue to repeat this motion for several strokes while also gently pulling and rubbing his balls with the other hand. Once you begin, try to never let your hand come completely off his dick. Every time you break your rhythm, you also break the mood and set back his climax.
Hand Over Hand StrokingContinue this slow, even stroking until he begins softly moaning or making comments like, "Mmmm. That feels good." Then you'll know it's time to move on to phase two and heat things up.
On the downward stroke, as your hand reaches the base of his shaft, start your other hand at the top. As the second hand goes down, remove the first and start it back at the top. Continue this hand over hand downstroke five or ten times then reverse it pulling your hands from bottom to top five or ten times. Repeat this procedure back and forth until his balls pull up tightly to his body and his breathing becomes heavy.
Finish Him OffNow it's time to return to the single-hand, up-and-down stroking you started with. This time use a firmer grip and speed your stroke up to a rapid jacking motion. Gently but firmly, work the fingers of your other hand around his scrotum and pull his balls back down away from his body. By this point his body will begin to buck uncontrollably and streams of semen will shoot in the air.
Once he stops shaking and catches his breath, he will definitely thank you for a job well done.
Tips
Use plenty of lube, and keep pouring it on as the hand job progresses. Don't forget to use his pre-cum as extra lubrication.
Massage his balls with one hand as you stroke his dick with the other.
Keep a steady, even rhythm and accelerate as he becomes more excited.
Keep at least one hand on his cock, stroking, at all times.
Squeeze gently around the head of his cock and the base of his penis for extra stimulation.
Use a firm grip and long, full strokes, unless he specifically prefers a lighter touch.
When he gets close to climax, tug gently on his balls.
If you're adventurous, slip a lubed finger up his ass and nudge his prostate.
Oral sex
Oral sex, also known as a blow job, eating out, going down on, giving head, is more official named "fellatio" for the guy and "cunnilingus for the girl. Oral sex is exactly what it implies; it's the pleasures of sex given orally, where one partner orally pleasures the other partner's genitals. When both partners are performing oral sex on one another at the same time it's called '69'.
Some misconceptions of earlier generations was that only guys were supposed to receive oral pleasure, but now, as popular shows like "Sex and the City" have taught us, oral sex is give and take.
Like the actual act of sexual intercourse, oral sex is a sexual act. There has been controversy in the past as to whether oral sex should be considered in the same realm of sex in the way that if you have engaged in oral sex, it means that you are no longer a virgin.
However, while it is a personal decision whether or not you consider oral sex a means of losing your virginity, there are certain ramifications that oral sex, like vaginal sex, has.
Contrary to popular belief, sexually transmitted diseases (STD's) can be transmitted through oral sex. When performing oral sex you can contract such STD's as oral herpes, hepatitis B, gonorrhea, syphilis, genital warts and even HIV. The way that STD's are spread is through the sharing of fluid bodily fluids, so if you have a cut in your mouth, even a very small and seemingly harmless or unnoticeable one, you do run the risk of getting an STD even if you are not engaging in sexual intercourse.
The safest way of giving a guy a blow job is by using a condom. There are flavored condoms so that their partner girl doesn't need to suck on a piece of bad tasting rubber or plastic. Condoms come in chocolate, banana, mint, cherry and lots of other flavors. The safest way to "eat out" a girl is by using a dental dam. A Ddental dam is a piece of square latex used to cover the vagina so that the girl's vaginal fluids don't get into their partner's guys mouth. Some people try to make their own version of the dental dam by cutting a condom down the middle or using plastic wrap. While these methods are effective, the safest route is to use the traditional dental dam itself.
The one difference between sex and oral sex is that a girl cannot get pregnant when giving or getting oral sex. Because of that, many people in relationships choose to engage in oral sex rather than sexual intercourse because it is safer in that respect.
Some misconceptions of earlier generations was that only guys were supposed to receive oral pleasure, but now, as popular shows like "Sex and the City" have taught us, oral sex is give and take.
Like the actual act of sexual intercourse, oral sex is a sexual act. There has been controversy in the past as to whether oral sex should be considered in the same realm of sex in the way that if you have engaged in oral sex, it means that you are no longer a virgin.
However, while it is a personal decision whether or not you consider oral sex a means of losing your virginity, there are certain ramifications that oral sex, like vaginal sex, has.
Contrary to popular belief, sexually transmitted diseases (STD's) can be transmitted through oral sex. When performing oral sex you can contract such STD's as oral herpes, hepatitis B, gonorrhea, syphilis, genital warts and even HIV. The way that STD's are spread is through the sharing of fluid bodily fluids, so if you have a cut in your mouth, even a very small and seemingly harmless or unnoticeable one, you do run the risk of getting an STD even if you are not engaging in sexual intercourse.
The safest way of giving a guy a blow job is by using a condom. There are flavored condoms so that their partner girl doesn't need to suck on a piece of bad tasting rubber or plastic. Condoms come in chocolate, banana, mint, cherry and lots of other flavors. The safest way to "eat out" a girl is by using a dental dam. A Ddental dam is a piece of square latex used to cover the vagina so that the girl's vaginal fluids don't get into their partner's guys mouth. Some people try to make their own version of the dental dam by cutting a condom down the middle or using plastic wrap. While these methods are effective, the safest route is to use the traditional dental dam itself.
The one difference between sex and oral sex is that a girl cannot get pregnant when giving or getting oral sex. Because of that, many people in relationships choose to engage in oral sex rather than sexual intercourse because it is safer in that respect.
Sex education for parents
Most parents have lots of questions about when to start talking about sex with their children, how much they have to say, how much information is too much, and where to go for answers when they don’t know them.
Talking with your kids about sex is never easy, but giving your child honest, straightforward information about sexual health is the best way to support them in having a healthy sexual life, including protecting them from unwanted pregnancies and STDs .
Talking with your kids about sex is never easy, but giving your child honest, straightforward information about sexual health is the best way to support them in having a healthy sexual life, including protecting them from unwanted pregnancies and STDs .
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